“I only date millionaires…the dark side of Money…”

8 Feb

The Bible tells us, “Yet true godliness with contentment is itself great wealth, (1 Timothy 6:6.)  We all know the “poor little rich girls,” or in other words, people who come from all the money in the world, yet are always depressed, never satisfied, always feel inadequate, and are on 10 different medications.  (I am not knocking ppl w/mental disorders or who experience depression, but I am saying this – money doesn’t buy happiness.)  I know plenty of depressed people who have lots of money, as well as middle income people who absolutely love their lives!  A recent study said that people who earned 70,000 or more were happiest, and that even if you made more money, it didn’t really increase your level of happiness?  Why is that?  I think it’s because as humans, we’re happiest when our basic needs are met and we have a little extra to play with.  Take myself for example – I’m not a millionaire (yet!  🙂 )  but I can say that God has blessed me to be able to live pretty comfortably.  I’m not worried about where my next meal is coming from, if I can afford diapers for my kids, or if I’m going to be out on the streets.  I don’t feel the need to go into debt buying new clothes all the time to try and impress people.  I have extra money if I want to get lunch with friends or take a trip with the girls or hubby.  I have a wonderful home life with my kids.  It doesn’t take lots of money to be happy.  When your focus is on what matters – God, friends, and family, then you’ll find that you’re happier.  You’ve allowed yourself to stop worrying about what others think, and to focus on what God thinks of you.

After all, you can’t take your 15 million dollar home to heaven with you – (if you get to heaven that is!)  🙂  But the Bible tells us that in heaven, we will have mansions based on the work that we did here on earth winning others to Jesus.  You might be a billionaire on earth, but you can’t take any of that with you!  So why kill for money?  Why sell your soul?  Why sacrifice your family for a few bucks?  I know of people who work so much just to afford to live in nice homes, and meanwhile their daughters are out sleeping around and their sons are high on drugs.  The kids feel alone b/c the parents are never around.  Or how about the kids who instead of being told that they are loved, are given Daddy’s credit card?  Please hear me – I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with money.  But it shouldn’t be our only priority.

We have all heard of women who “marry for money.”  Well, what happens, (especially in this economy,) when that millionaire you marries loses all his money due to a bad business deal or a company that tanks?  Are you just going to leave your now poor husband, drag your kids through a messy divorce, and find the next guy who will take care of you? To me, that doesn’t sound fun at all – just so that you can live in a home with ten bedrooms and be a member of a country club?  No thanks – I’ll take a relationship that’s based on more.  That is not to say that you have to marry some bum off the street.  Of course you want someone who will provide.  But if you only date people who have a certain amount of money, (and that’s all that matters to you,) I can almost guarantee that it will lead to a divorce sooner or later.  At the end of the day, if you haven’t married your best friend, you probably won’t be happy.  Take a look at Hugh Hefner’s girlfriends – sure they get to live in a beautiful mansion rent free and lounge around a pool all day, but do you really think they’re happy at the end of the night?  How do you think they feel after years and years of orgies, but never knowing what it’s like to lay down next to a man who loves you and you only, is the father of your children, is someone that you can tell all of your secrets to, and see yourself at 80 years old on the porch drinking sweet tea on a rocking chair?  I don’t care how happy they look on the outside – when you’re living a life outside of God’s plan for you without regard to friends and family, (and only caring about money,) you will not be fulfilled in the end.  If it was all about money, how come almost no Hollywood celebrities can stay married past five years, and us “common folks” are making it decades?  It’s not that we can’t afford divorces, (b/c they have divorce coupons now..lol..)  It’s that in the end, money doesn’t buy any of the things that truly matter.

Sure, living a life that is soley based on making money will be fun for a while – you’ll drive all the nicest cars, live in a huge home, and take trips to Paris at the drop of the dime.  Most any bad behavior is pleasurable for a while, (just as sin is fun for a time.)  But eventually life will catch up with you.  Will you be happy at 45 married to a man you don’t even love, and who really only married you for your looks, (which are starting to fade?)  …If he only married you for looks and sex, deep down you know he could easily leave you for a 25 year old, and you’ll be joining the “first wives club.”  Will you be happy at 65 when you’re in the nursing home all alone because your first, second and third wife have left now that you aren’t a cash cow anymore?  Is it really worth it?  What matters more to you, money or God?

But here’s the good news: there’s nothing wrong with having money.  God says that He desires to bless and prosper us, and to give us a hope and a future, (Jeremiah 29:11.)  You can be a Christian and be rich.  God is looking for people that He can trust with His money.  If God gives you that raise at work, are you going to blow it all at the club on 5 shots for everyone, or are you going to save it, and ask God if there is anyone that He would like for you to bless?  Being a Christian is not about giving all of your money away, but rather being a wise steward of what God has given you.  Save the majority, invest some, and remember that it’s OK to treat yourself every now and then.  So many times “church folks” say that money is evil.  That’s not true.  The Bible says that the LOVE of money is evil, or basically the idea of selling your soul for money is evil.

Ever notice that so many rich people are never satisfied?  When you put your hope in money, you’ll always want more b/c you’re finding your worth in what you HAVE, not who you ARE.  Here’s something to think about – Do you know people who go around asking people what they do for a living?  This question isn’t evil, but it reflects how so many people are defined by their job.  Who cares if you’re an engineer who makes 100,000 a year?  If you work 80 hours a week to the point where your wife walks out on you and your kids don’t know who you are, IT’S NOT WORTH IT!  God will honor you when you put Him and your family first.

Yes, it’s good to make money.  But our focus shouldn’t be JUST on money.  Do you have good friends and relationships?  Is your home in order?  Do you love your spouse?  Do you have time to play with your kids and talk to them about their day?  Or are you so busy rushing off to work and to make money that all you do is say a quick “hello” to your husband or wife in the morning?  Any relationship that you are not tending to will die over time.  (I know that there are circumstances where someone may have to work three jobs just to pay the bills…that’s not who I’m referring to.)  I’m talking about people who will just about sell their family and kids for money – those people whose WORLD revolves around making money.  Again, that money won’t matter much when you’re 80 years old and have NO ONE who truly cares about you.  Build your life around the things that matter.

Ask yourself if your focus is on things that matter in the grand scheme of things, or if you’re living only to make money and buy THINGS.  Allow God to change your heart to one that is focused on Him and on making a difference in the lives of others.  Take a step back and realize that there are people who don’t know where their next meal is coming from.  We’re so blessed in America.  Don’t take the little things like heat and a shelter over your head for granted.  Some people were soaking wet last night for lack of a roof over their heads.  Be grateful for what you have, find ways to make more money if that’s what you need, but never allow money to be your first love.  Money is a means to a comfortable end. But it shouldn’t be the end all be all.

Meditate on the following scripture today:

“Tell those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money.  Money cannot be trusted.  They should put their trust in God.  He gives us all we need for our happiness.”  1 Timothy 6:17.

Be blessed!  🙂

The book is done!  Should be out by summer.  Thank you Jesus!


2 Responses to ““I only date millionaires…the dark side of Money…””

  1. ~ Lamanda February 9, 2012 at 5:27 am #

    I did LOVE it, Lauren!!! Many times people get caught up in what their bank account looks like. Their “value” of life is based on how much they have or think they have; when really they are chasing idols in their hearts which is never satisfying.

    It’s sad really as I know that money is the number one reason for divorce in country. If only we could learn to live within our means and be content with the place God has us! I know I have along way to go in the saving/budgeting area. I coupon, shop when things are on sale which helps a lot, but I feel like I could do a lot better in other areas to become a better steward with the money God has given us….Which is why my hubby and I are going back through our Dave Ramsey CD’S and books to gain a fresh perspective again. We did it about 3 or 4 years ago.

    Thanks for this post, your love of others and Christ!

    • lholmes79 February 9, 2012 at 2:37 pm #

      Hey Lamanda! I’ve got a long way to go too! 🙂 I think many of us know that we should be saving and managing our money better, but we don’t always put the knowledge to use!haha…I am trying to cook more at home, do activities that are free, and realize that I don’t have to be spending money to have a good time. Dave Ramsey is amazing – we have not done FPU but I’ve read all his books, listen to his radio show, and was lucky enough to marry someone who already practiced his principles before even knowing who he was. 🙂 It’s good that there are other young ladies out there who are being smart and love their families and God. We’re not a lost generation like the world says. There are still those of us who love God and seek to be good moms, good friends, and smart women even in our early 20’s!! …although I’m not in my early 20’s anymore, I still like to pretend like I am!hahahaha..

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