What Every Girl Must Know Before Going Away to College

29 May

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Congratulations!  You have been accepted to college, and at the end of the summer, you’ll be moving to your dorm room.  August just can’t get here quick enough, can it???  Maybe you remember back to your college days, or you are about to go away to college in a few short months.

There are a few things every girl should know before she goes away to school:

1. One of the best pieces of advice was what my mom matter of factly told me before I left for college – “When a football player asks to “study” in your dorm, he will rape you.”  This may sound crass, but my mother always told me the truth, never sugar coating things.  While I knew not every guy would rape me, her point was well taken.  Unless you know a guy well, trust his character, and have been dating for a while, he does not deserve to be in your bedroom alone, even if you’re just hanging out.  Not all guys are like this, but many will take advantage of a closed door.  …Then it becomes your word against theirs.  Avoid getting in a sticky situation like this – do not let boys in your room alone unless you 100% trust them.  You’re worth more – not every guy deserves to be allowed into your dorm room.  I don’t care how cute he is or how much he spent at dinner.

2. Freshman girls are also known by many guys as “fresh meat.”  I hope the guys reading this know that I don’t mean all guys are like this, but let’s be honest – at 18, many guys often have something else on the brain, if you know what I mean.  🙂  Every year, a new crop of girls comes to college, and the guys are right there to take their pick.  Don’t jump into anything too fast.  Lay low for awhile.  Don’t go to every single party.  Get comfortable with college life before immediately jumping into a new relationship.

3.  What you do at Friday night’s party may come back to haunt you.  Back when I was in college, we didn’t have facebook the first year or two – (it had just come out,) so everything we did wasn’t documented within three hours of our doing it.  But even apart from social networking, all it takes is one day to ruin a great reputation.  The word tells us that a good reputation is worth far more than rubies – be careful what you do, because you represent God, and you don’t want to tarnish a good reputation.

4. You may have already heard this one – these are going to be some of the best, most memorable years of your life.  Enjoy yourself!  You don’t have to make house payments, watch kids all day, wipe runny noses and diapers, or work for eight hours a day in a tiny cubicle.  You can work an easy part time job, (sometimes getting paid more than you will after you graduate college…lol,) you don’t have to check in with anyone, and if you’re lucky, you’ll have a meal plan which lets you get pre-ordered meals that are included in your tution payment.  (OK, I was a little spoiled in college, I know.)  🙂  You can take classes at noon, stay up all night with friends, and sleep in as late as you want.  Life changes pretty quickly after college, and it’s often a RUDE awakening.  So enjoy your care-free days while you can.  🙂

5.  Just because you’re in college doesn’t mean you’re invincible.  Yes – you’re young, beautiful, and think you can do anything you put your mind to, (and you can!)  But that doesn’t mean you won’t get alcohol poisining if you drink too much.  It doesn’t mean that you can’t get pregnant or contract an STD if you choose to have sex.  It doesn’t mean that you’ll never get a broken heart.  I know that you’re ready to conquer the world, but realize that the world doesn’t always care about you.  So be safe and use godly wisdom

6.  Just because you’re in college doesn’t mean you have to give up your faith.  I know, I know…everyone else may be getting drunk, using every drug under the sun, and sleeping with a different guy every day, but it doesn’t mean that you have to.  Everyone will tell you that this is a time to explore, and to a certain extent, it is.  But why not explore your faith?  Why not get closer to God, and understand the word for yourself?  After all, you won’t just get into heaven b/c Mom and Dad are saved – you need to have a personal relationship with God for yourself.  Join a campus ministry or find a church near or on campus – don’t believe the lie that you have to be totally amoral during your college years.

I hope that these tips help! College is a fun four years!  Have a good time, be safe, and like my mom always told me, “remember who you represent!”

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