Want a Better Marriage? Have Sex with your Husband!!

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As I write this, I am blushing a little. 🙂  I am in no way a sex therapist, but I have been married for five years, so that should count for something!lol..  So often, we hear about sexless marriages, the seven year itch, and how sex was so much better before marriage.  It doesn’t have to be that way!

Here are some reasons that you should be having sex with your husband, (if you are not.)  🙂

1.  He sees beautiful women every day and sexy ads at every turn.  Don’t make his mind wander by holding out.  Keep him coming home after work because he knows he has a beautiful wife who is available to him.

2. Studies show that even if you’re not in the mood, if you just go ahead and do it, you will begin to warm up, and even enjoy yourself in the process by the end.

3. Sex is healthy!  It is a workout.  Studies also show that people who have sex three times a week have better relationships.

4. Sometimes we forget who created sex.  God did!  So enjoy His gift!

You may be thinking, “help, I have no time for sex!”

Remember that we make time for what is important.  For one day, cut out the TV and Facebook, use that extra time to catch up on all of your tasks earlier on, and put the kids to bed early too.  Freshen up for your sweetie, and enjoy a night of passion!

Here are some ways to kick up the romance a notch:

1. Take a shower every night before bed.  Men are turned on by scents, (most men like vanilla,) and he will love that you smell good.  Or, take a shower with your husband! 🙂

2. Get away for a night.  Even if it’s just staying at a local hotel, mix things up and keep the relationship fresh.

3. Re-create your first date.  Ours was at a Chinese buffet then Border’s books.  Every time we go there, we recount the details of how we first met, and those little butterflies that I felt when we first met creep back in. 🙂

4. If you have kids, get away from them every now and then!  🙂 It’s hard to be romantic when you have to stop to wipe poopy diapers and clean up spills every five minutes.  If you don’t have funds for a babysitter, swap kids with a trusted friend.

5. Realize that dates and time alone don’t have to break the bank.  Go hiking, canoeing at the local park, or take a walk on the beach.  Have a picnic lunch together, or go camping.  There are all kinds of frugal ways to have a great date.

And when you get mad at your spouse, try and think about why you first tell in love with them, and try to focus on the positives.  Train yourself to speak well of your spouse in public and in private.  Yes, sometimes you’ll need to vent to a friend about your spouse, but overall, try to speak well of them.

And for those who are facing problems, please understand that I am not saying that sex will be a cure-all.  Of course not.  It won’t solve all of your problems, but it sure won’t hurt either.  🙂

If you are married, surprise your spouse tonight with a night of passion!

Be blessed!  🙂

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2 Responses to “Want a Better Marriage? Have Sex with your Husband!!”

  1. Susan McNiel Godfrey June 5, 2012 at 12:58 pm #

    Love the ideas you share here on a delicate topic 🙂 Yes, I blushed too…lol, but wives need to be reminded sometimes!

    I just found your blog today and I’ll be back! I would love it if you would share this post on the Feminine Friday Link-Up! I really think my readers will enjoy it!


    Susan Godfrey
    Finding Beauty – http://www.susangodfrey.com

    • lholmes79 June 5, 2012 at 1:03 pm #

      Thanks Susan! I will link up with you for sure. Blessings to you, and I’ll be sure to check out your website as well. 🙂

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