Drop out of the “Ain’t it Awful Club!”

12 Mar


This is a quote from one of my favorite books, “The Success Principles,” by Jack Canfield.

The advice is to “drop out of the ‘ain’t it awful club,’ and surround yourself with successful people.

I love this advice because believe it or not, I used to be very negative.  I would assume the worst about people and situations.

The change has been gradual, but I finally see how important it is to see the good in people and life, and to think positively.

Here is some advice from the chapter, (with my commentary in italics.)  🙂

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with,” Jim Rohn.

Who are you spending your time with?

You become like the people you spend the most time with.  “Pay any price to stay in the presence of extraordinary people,” Mike Murdock.

Do you surround yourself with people who spur you on to learn new things, to try out new ideas, and to grow as a person?


“Confidence is contagious.  So is lack of confidence,” Vince Lombardi.

Do you think defeated thoughts, or do you force yourself to believe the best?

Drop out of the “ain’t it awful” club.  “There are two types of people – anchors and motors.  You want to lose the anchors and get with the motors because the motors are going somewhere and they’re having fun.  The anchors will just drag you down,” Wyland.

Think of your closest friends.  Do they bring you down and make you feel depressed, or do they inspire you and bring joy? 

Be selective.  “I just do not hang around anybody that I don’t want to be with.  Period.  For me, that’s been a blessing, and I can stay positive.  I hang around people who are happy, who are growing, who want to learn, who don’t mind saying sorry or thank you…and [are] having a fun time,” John Assaraf.

Choose your friends and close acquaintances wisely.  I don’t allow anyone in my inner circle who laughs at my dreams, talks negatively about my ideas, puts me down, or who consistently sees the glass as half empty.  


Avoid toxic people.

If someone is mean, gossips, puts me down, puts others down, and is rude or disrespectful, then I choose not to be around them.

Surround yourself with successful people.

Surround yourself with those who know more than you and are further along than you – then you’ll always be learning and becoming more successful!

This is not to say that we can’t help others who may be negative, or that we have to be perfect people who never have bad days.  It’s OK to have a bad day or be sad.

But all of that being said, I do make a  conscious choice to spend my time with and choose friends who are positive, who see the good in life, and who inspire me.  Plus, negative people don’t like me very much anyway – I usually try and find the good in everything, so that upsets them!lol…  Choose today which type of person you will be! 🙂

Blessings! :)

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2 Responses to “Drop out of the “Ain’t it Awful Club!””

  1. Naia March 13, 2013 at 8:48 am #

    The comment near the top is what got me: You are the average of the 5 people closest to you. What a great way to remember that we should surround ourselves with like-minded friends…

    Thank you,


    • lholmes79 March 13, 2013 at 8:56 am #

      Amen! Yes, Naia, our closest friends have a HUGE influence on us. 🙂 I am trying to choose wisely too! Blessings, Lauren

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