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Why I’m Sticking with My Husband

3 Sep

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So I was getting ready to write a post about healthy eating, but I felt the need to go in a different direction. 🙂  I just finished a book for new brides and married women, but I’m waiting till the end of September to release it after I attend a writing conference in a few weeks in case I get any more pointers.

It seems to be wedding season, and I’ve recently gone to lots of beautiful weddings of both friends and family.  My husband and I just made eight years of marriage this year, and at almost ten years, I feel like we finally know each other, and I pretty much know what he’s thinking even if he doesn’t speak.  We’ve been through the newlywed growing pains, kids, job changes, expectations that were and weren’t met, and dealt with both good times and bad times.  I think back to my wedding and how I wanted the day to be just perfect, not realizing that the wedding day would go by so fast, and then I actually had to know how to live with and get along with this new person 24/7.  🙂

So if I could share anything about marriage with married people, whether newlyweds, singles, or those who have been married, it would be this.

  1. Your spouse doesn’t complete you.  If you were happy before them, you’ll be happy after them.  If you were sad before marriage, you’ll be sad after marriage. Getting married won’t complete you – you should find wholeness in Christ.  Putting the expectation on your spouse of making you happy isn’t fair.  Marriage will teach you about yourself and refine you, but nowhere in the Bible does it say that your spouse is meant to complete you.
  2. Choose your battles wisely.  Some (small) things – you just have to let go.  I kind of look at it the same way that I look at my employees.  If they do something wrong, I try not tell them right then, and micromanage.  If it’s something I need to go over, I’ll make a note of it and tell them the next day.  I don’t want them to feel like I’m a dragon breathing down their necks!  🙂  ….same with my husband.  If there’s something we need to confront, I’ll do my best to ask myself if I’ve added to the problem, if it’s a good time to discuss it with him, if it’s a large issue that needs to be confronted, or if it’s just something small that annoys me that I really don’t need to be upset about at all.
  3. The grass isn’t greener on the other side.  With the recent Ashley Madison scandal, it really became obvious to me that a lot of people are looking for satisfaction outside of their marriage – I am not judging them b/c we have all made mistakes, I’m just saying that it made me think.  My thing is, if I’ve already invested eight years into my marriage and have children and home, I’m going to fight to make my marriage work.  I married a wonderful man.  Yes; we have our differing opinions sometimes, but so does every couple – no two people are exactly alike.  Instead of going out and cheating, I would rather try and work things out with my husband, build our marriage, spend time as a family, and work on things that need to be sorted out.  I have no intentions of ever leaving my husband, but just for rhetorical purposes, if I did, the new person might have some qualities that my husband didn’t have, but my husband would still have things the new person didn’t have.  Why start over?  No one person is ever going to meet your needs 100% of the time – stick with the person God gave you, make your marriage better, and enjoy the spouse that God blessed you with! 🙂  (I am not speaking to issues of abuse or cheating – I am speaking to those who have good spouses but are considering wandering..)

I could go on so I think I’ll do a part two and keep going to till the book comes out.  🙂  Stick with the partner of your youth that God blessed you with!  If you are thinking of straying, think of what attracted you to your spouse to begin with.  Light the fire again!  🙂  Get help if need be, get off the blogs that showcase perfect marriages, talk to real people who have good marriages, read marriage books, and try and put yourself in your partner’s shoes.

I wanted to share this Hillsong worship song “I Surrender” with you all – it’s about surrendering to God in every area!

Blessings,

Lauren

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Lauren is a wife, mother, Jesus-lover, Blogger, Certified Life Coach, Professor, the owner of a Spanish Immersion Christian preschool, and the owner of Lauren’s Lathers, an organic beauty company, (making her own home-made Soaps, Scrubs, Shea Butters, and more!)  She is excited to soon be starting her Professional/Master Esthetics Certification Program this Fall to eventually open a spa for women that will offer a variety of Spa Treatments for the whole woman – (Microderm, facials, waxing, makeup, massage, spray tans, etc.) along with Life Coaching.  She loves Zumba, Pilates, soaking worship, dreaming and goal-setting, the beach, chocolate, berry smoothies, travel, and spending time with her friends, family and children.  Her life’s mission is to be happy, to help others, and to spread God’s love, as well as to be an Author, Motivational speaker, Consultant and Coach – her first book will be available soon at the end of September.  : )

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What if my gift is too small?

17 Jun

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With social media, TV, and Facebook, we often see amazing stories of people who are breaking Olympic records, traveling to other countries helping sex-trafficked women and children, and winning all kinds of awards.  Sometimes we are happy for them.  Other times it can make us feel as though we should be doing more.

But we should never compare our gifts to others.  Recently a friend told me about a trip she was taking across the world to help abused women.  I could have been jealous, wishing that I too could travel internationally and make a difference.  But I know that for me, I am making a difference right at home. 🙂

 

Right now, my mission is to make a difference right here in my city by loving my children and the children who come to my preschool.

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Right now, my mission is to love my husband and friends, and be an example to others that marriage still works.  🙂

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Let’s never compare ourselves to others and think that the gifts we can share with others are “too small.”  Not at all. 🙂 Our gifts are just different.  Some gifts may bring fame and fortune, and other gifts may not, but that doesn’t make one better than the other.

Be happy with the gifts that you can share with others.  What is a gift that you can share with others today? : )

 

 

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Lauren is a wife, mother, preschool teacher, tutor and lover of all things natural, even making and selling her own organic beauty products.  She loves Zumba, the beach, coffee, chocolate, berry smoothies, travel, and being silly with her friends, family and children.  Her life’s mission is to be happy, to help others, and to spread God’s love.

 

God gave me Freebies! Yeah!!

16 Nov

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Wow – it is almost the end of 2013!  Can you believe it?  This year has had it’s shares of ups and downs for us for sure! 

We moved to a new house, (after going back and forth with the previous owners for almost 6 months,) I started a new job, we endured two government shutdowns, (my hubby works for the govt.,) the babies started a new preschool, and the list continues…  🙂 I once read somewhere that 3-4 changes/yr can cause stress, and we probably had almost a whopping six or more changes this year!

But even with all the changes and financial ups and downs, God has still been faithful.  He’s blessed us during times of financial strain, and restored us with sweet reminders that He is still God! 🙂  Here are just a few:

1.  I found out that I have a three foot rosemary bush in my yard.  Fresh  and FREE herbs!!  Can you say rosemary chicken, rosemary veggies, rosemary everything!!!lol…last night I made rosemary veggies, and this morning, I made smoked sausages and onions with rosemary for lunch. 

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2. When we visited my husbands family down South, we had a nice little free vacation, went to football games, out to eat, and played around at Walmart!lol…It was a nice break!  🙂 When we left, they gave us a cooler full of fresh meat from their freezer.  Meat is expensive these days.  That meat lasted us for a whole week, and we didn’t have to buy groceries.

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3. About a month back, I went to a women’s conference, and stayed at the end to tear down.  I asked where the two veggie trays and hummus needed to go, and they told me to take them home.  Again, a week’s supply of fresh veggies and two industrial sized tubs of hummus.  Thank you, Lord! 🙂

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I truly believe that God orchestrates events to show us that He hasn’t forgotten us and is still in control. 

I pray that He blesses you too and reminds you that even when life gets tough, He’s still there.  Hang in there and trust Him to get you through!

Blessings,

Lauren

 

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Finger Painting with Diaper Rash Cream

30 May

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This morning I noticed white paste on the walls, and my daughter was standing there looking guilty. I  put two and two together, and realized that she was finger painting on the walls with diaper rash cream!!lol…

I wanted to laugh but didn’t, (so as not to encourage her…lol,) but it really was funny! She got upset that she had to stop, but she was fine once we cleaned her up and brought out the crayons, coloring books and kitchen set! 🙂

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This morning was a reminder to me to never take life too seriously. I could have fussed and gotten upset and let it ruin my morning, but what would that have accomplished? There are people with much worse problems than diaper rash cream on their walls!!lol…

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There are moms who can’t afford diaper cream, or maybe don’t have a place to live with their kids.

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Today, take the focus off of yourself, and focus on helping others! 🙂

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Here is an opportunity to do just that: we are having a Baby Shower for the Women of the Crisis Pregnancy Center who otherwise might not get a shower – I hope that you’ll consider joining, or donating food, or mommy and baby gifts.

https://www.facebook.com/events/447406908685353/?fref=ts  (Link to sign up for baby shower for Crisis Pregnancy Center)

Blessings! 🙂

Lauren

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Love pretty jewelry? ME TOO!! Check out my Traci Lynn Fashion Jewelry page – our jewelry is cute, professional, fun, and has that BLING factor that we all love!

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Looking for a fun program that teaches your kids Spanish through art, music, dance and fun interactive games? Check out our “Spanish for Kids” classes here! http://www.successcoachingandtutoring.com/Spanish-for-Kids.html

If you live in the Hampton Roads area and have a business or ministry, I would strongly encourage you to connect with the Shepherd’s Guide at a free lunch and learn, where you will find out how to grow your business, and be seen before thousands! Partnering with them has grown my ministry and brought me some great contacts. 🙂

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Do you choose money over family?

24 May

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Recently someone hinted at me that if I wanted to make more money, I would need to work more.

I don’t think this person was bad…they just had different priorities from me.

God has a different plan for each of us.  Some work in an office, some work from home, some work in the house taking care of their kids, and some work on the missions field in India! 🙂

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And I hope that one day we can all get to the place where we understand that just because someone takes a different path from us, it doesn’t make them wrong, (or us better!)

In regards to the person who thought I should be working more hours to make more money, maybe for them, it is a priority to live in a million dollar home.

For me, I would rather have my nice 2700 square foot home, (which is more than enough space for my family and I,) 🙂 and not have to work 16 hour days and never see my children just to keep up a mortgage.

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Yes; some people must work 16 hours just to keep their heads above water, so I am not judging them at all.

But for me, I have the choice, and I’m fine with what I have. I’m not going to work more and be away from my kids just so I can have a nicer car.  I don’t just want to see my kids before they go to bed, or when they’re already asleep for the night.

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So for me, I choose to forego the money and have that sweet time with my little ones, cuddling, watching “Cars,” and eating Crunch Berries after dinner.  🙂

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Remember – it doesn’t matter what other people have to say about your choices; it matters what God thinks!

Blessings,

Lauren

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*** Do you have dreams that you have yet to accomplish?  Do you know what needs to be done, but you can’t figure out why you’re not doing it?  For years, this was me.  I would love to partner along side of you, and help you to come up with a plan to achieve your goals and dreams!   Let’s connect today!

http://www.successcoachingandtutoring.com

Love pretty jewelry? ME TOO!! Check out my Traci Lynn Fashion Jewelry page – our jewelry is cute, professional, fun, and has that BLING factor that we all love!

http://www.tracilynnjewelry.net/laurenholmes

Looking for a fun program that teaches your kids Spanish through art, music, dance and fun interactive games?  Check out our “Spanish for Kids” classes here!   http://www.successcoachingandtutoring.com/Spanish-for-Kids.html

If you live in the Hampton Roads area and have a business or ministry, I would strongly encourage you to connect with the Shepherd’s Guide at a free lunch and learn, where you will find out how to grow your business, and be seen before thousands!   Partnering with them has grown my ministry and brought me some great contacts.  :)
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